Loving kindness meditation with difficult people
Sunset meditation The Loving Kindness, or Metta meditation is a popular practice, particularly within Buddhism, Jainism and some forms of Hinduism. In Theravada Buddhism in particular, loving-kindness / metta is recognised as the ninth of the ten perfections cultivated on the path towards awakening or Buddhahood (Apple, 2012). As the name suggests, it is about developing friendliness, goodwill and benevolence in oneself and radiating this out towards all beings. The main method of practicing this meditation today is as a four-stage process in which one thinks or chants something like the following: • May I be happy • May I be healthy • May I be safe • May I be peaceful This is then repeated, but directed towards a friend (“May [friend] be happy, May [friend] be healthy” etc.), then towards a neutral person and finally towards a difficult person. By the way, this is a fairly flexible practice, so you can change the wor...